The secret to a long and happy sex life within a relationship is to have reasonable “sexpectations” and understand the hard work and effort that goes into the sexual aspect of a relationship, a new study has found.
Researchers at the University of Toronto have found that people hold differing “implicit beliefs” or “sexpectations” that either a happy sex life takes hard work or that true soulmates will naturally have a good long-term sexual relationship.
The study, published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, found that people can either have their relationships sustained by these “sexpectations” or have their relationship undermined by them.
Study lead Jessica Maxwell said that people who “believe in sexual destiny are using their sex life as a barometer for how well their relationship is doing, and they believe the problems in the bedroom equal problems in the relationship as a whole”.
“Whereas people who believe in sexual growth not only believe they can work on their sexual problems, but they are not letting it affect their relationship satisfaction,” she said.
The research questioned 1,900 people from both heterosexual and same sex couples and found that after the initial two- to three-year honeymoon phase, where sexual satisfaction is recorded as high within relationships, the belief that sexual relationships take work began to show benefits.
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